LOVE IS NOT : DISHONEST

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LOVE IS NOT

is a social media campaign designed to empower and educate young people to recognize and combat signs of emotional and verbal abuse in their relationships.

 

WE BELIEVE

that early relationship abuse education and intervention can help young people avoid a lifetime of conflict cycles, domestic abuse, and codependency.

MEET LIZ

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Hello! I’m Liz, a mother, musician, mediator, and divorce coach. I have a specialization in High-Conflict and Narcissistic relationships. I lecture regularly on high conflict divorce strategies and am a sought-after speaker and podcast guest. I grew up in a relatively stable and happy family, but the older I got, the more I realized what a rarity my background was. When my children and their friends started dating, I had a revelation: these kinds of relationships start early. I was seeing signs of all kinds of domestic violence in these children's relationships. This is why I want to create a digital education program for teens – to help empower them to recognize signs of abuse, communicate, create boundaries, deescalate, and walk away from abusive relationships. I want these skills to be available throughout a person's life and I believe that early intervention is the key to avoiding a lifelong series of abusive relationships. Love is Not will provide tools, information, and resources for young adults to help raise their awareness of this issue, and help keep them out of emotionally abusive relationships early on so they can avoid a lifelong series of abuse.

THE 5 PILLARS OF CHANGE

Recognition

Everyone deserves a life free of abuse, but often when you are in the middle of an abusive relationship, it can be easy to miss the undercurrent of abusive behavior. Emotional abuse can be very subtle. Recognizing signs up emotional and verbal is key in gaining awareness, making empowered decisions, and building safe boundaries. Once you know what the “red flags” are, you are better able to see them waving miles away!

 

Boundary Setting

Young people often find themselves in situations with partners where they struggle to communicate their needs, values, or boundaries. Even when their guts are telling them that someone is crossing a line, they may struggle to find the language to express what they’re feeling and what they want. Setting boundaries allow people to communicate what is OK and what is not, and learning to do this is a lifelong skill that everyone could use help with. 

 

Communication

We often tell young people to “use your words” - but it’s not always that easy! Especially when people are emotionally dysregulated, it can be extremely challenging to articulate what is bothering them and communicate in an effective, non-reactive way. Learning how to respond to conflict and situations that make us uncomfortable can help us de-escalate scary situations, but it takes some practice. 

 

Helping Others

58% of college students say they don’t know what to do to help someone who is a victim of dating abuse. It can be difficult to know how to support a friend who is suffering from relationship abuse. If you haven’t dealt with it before, you might wonder why your friend doesn’t “just leave him”, not realizing that ending abusive relationships is far more complicated than other kinds of breakups. 

 

Self-care

Self-care is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself! It means taking care of yourself emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Too often we give our friends and partners more love, encouragement, and grace than we do ourselves. If we want others to treat us with respect, we have to be willing and able to give ourselves respect first, although it doesn’t always come naturally for many of us - especially if we’ve been in abusive relationships. 

 

 

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CHANGE STARTS WITH EDUCATION AND AWARENESS

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