IT’S TIME TO TAKE BACK YOUR POWER: If you hate yourself for saying ‘yes’ again to that thing you don’t want to do, it’s time to FINALLY kick that people-pleasing habit out!
The only problem? You don’t know how to say ‘No’ without making people angry and feeling like your selfish prick.
Maybe you have tried saying ‘No’ in a nice, indirect way. But…
- People STILL ask you to ‘help’ them for things they can do themselves (Because you are such a nice, helpful person!)
- You feel so guilty that you are ashamed to face that person again
- You are terrified when people explode in anger and refuse to talk to you
- People badmouth you and call you ‘selfish’ (And make snide remarks about people who don’t ‘put other people’s needs above their own’)
- You are done with feeling constant pressure and stress of doing things for other people
You want to stop your people-pleasing habit but…
- You feel lost and don’t know how to do set boundaries without feeling ‘selfish’
- You can’t differentiate between healthy boundaries and ‘selfish’ boundaries
- You are scared of losing your friends and your family
- You don’t know whose advice to follow (Hint: I’m good at this!)
Either way, you are starting to be stressed out, fatigued and burnt out from doing unnecessary tasks for other people and feel guilty whenever you say ‘No’ to them.
You know that if you stop putting other people’s non-urgent needs above your own, you will have more time, more energy and more mental space to live your ideal life every day.
You fantasize of the day when you are so confident, you can say ‘No’ to unwanted requests without explaining yourself.
And the ability to treat your own needs as equally important as other people’s needs? That is a self-worth milestone right there.